Some call it Chaos We call it Family

    Marriage is hard and adding in children, even though we love them to death, it doesn’t mean it is always easy. Something I learned that I found fascinating this week was the correlation between having children and divorce. Maybe it is obvious to others, but I was a little surprised. When people first get married it’s all new and exciting. When a couple has their first child it can add strain to their relationship. This strain has been known to lead to divorce. A reason for this is when they have their child the women becomes very involved with their new baby. Babies require a lot of attention and care to live. Women also have a biological connection to their child that instantly makes them over the moon in love with their child. Men don’t have that, it does not mean that they aren’t over the moon in love with their child too, but they don’t have that biological connection that the mother has with her child. So, as the mother is busy taking care of her child the father...

Dating and Marriage! Before we begin, let me first say that it is snowing big and fluffy flakes of snow! I am so excited for a winter wonderland. It is giving me Christmas vibes in October! It has definitely brought some excitement into my day and a smile to my face. Now back on track. Dating and Marriage!! I will say right off the back that I am not married though I have gone on a few dates and have had a couple boyfriends. But isn’t dating so different now than it was (if you think back to when your parents were dating)? Dating used to just be a fun thing to do to get out, get to know people, learn about people and find people that you would like to then court. Isn’t that weird??? We don’t even talk about courting anymore. We just say that we are dating someone and generally when you go on a date with someone you are serious. I have met many people where when you go on lots of dates you are considered a player. It makes me a little sad. I would love to have gone on tons of fun date...

  Hey everyone! I am going to talk about something that scares me a little bit since it is so controversial. If you disagree with anything, I say I am open to new ideas and ways of thinking or maybe you misinterpreted me and I would love to clear it up. I wanted to touch on homosexuality. It has been on my mind this week and I wanted to share some of my opinions on it. Now being a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, we believe that marriage is between a man and a woman. My brother is homosexual which is made me have a hard time with the discussion of homosexuals. It has always been something that I can’t really allow myself to think too deeply into because I know one day it will all make sense and I just need to wait till then. However, this week I have been learning more and wanted to share a different perspective that I gained. I am still not sure where I stand on anything so this is more of a new perspective rather than opinion.   I always assumed...

      Last week I touched on symbolic interaction theory and how our cultural backgrounds can lead us to draw conclusions. There are so many different types of family cultures. We all have our own family culture and when we get married, we start our own family culture. When we start our own family, it is easy to continue doing what our families have down and keep the culture we grew up in alive. While families are amazing, no family culture is perfect. Getting married and starting a family is an opportunity to keep and change things from the culture you grew up in.   We can also draw from other families around us. Those we babysit for, go to church with, family friends, etc. By being around different families, we can take and discard ideas that we would like for our own future family, but we actually have to be intentional with the things we want to include or we won’t make any changes; we would keep our old cultures, the good and the bad.   I know from...

     I have been learning a lot about theories that can help us to better understand the family this week and thought “why not share?!” It was all very interesting to me to be able to learn about how a family works. One of my favorite theories was Symbolic Interaction Theories because it helped explain so much! Symbolic interaction theory is how we draw conclusions based on our background and because of that we can end up misunderstanding things. It can cause conflict and hurt when we draw conclusions based on our background. Let me share a story of mine that to me is rather embarrassing.        It is American culture to take your shoes when you enter someone’s house, or at least ask if they would like you to take them off. I was going to my boyfriend’s house where they were just moving in and we were cleaning. I asked if I should take my shoes off because 1. I didn’t want to drag in dirt and 2. I was trying to be polite and leave a good impression. He...