A Different Perspective on Homosexuality

  Hey everyone! I am going to talk about something that scares me a little bit since it is so controversial. If you disagree with anything, I say I am open to new ideas and ways of thinking or maybe you misinterpreted me and I would love to clear it up. I wanted to touch on homosexuality. It has been on my mind this week and I wanted to share some of my opinions on it. Now being a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, we believe that marriage is between a man and a woman. My brother is homosexual which is made me have a hard time with the discussion of homosexuals. It has always been something that I can’t really allow myself to think too deeply into because I know one day it will all make sense and I just need to wait till then. However, this week I have been learning more and wanted to share a different perspective that I gained. I am still not sure where I stand on anything so this is more of a new perspective rather than opinion. 

I always assumed that my brother was born homosexual and he still could have been, but due to some new information I gained this week it brought new perspective and has led to me to question my original belief. There have been many studies that show that there are many environmental factors that can lead people to become homosexual. Not that they necessarily choose it and that homosexuality isn’t a real thing, because it is, but more that these environmental factors lead people to become homosexual rather than being born that way. Some of the environmental factors were not being as close to the father, being molested by a women or a man (if it was by a women it often made them no longer desire a women and if it was by a man it introduced those sexual urges), being bullied about his sexuality (being called gay for being more feminine), and feeling less masculine or feeling more connected/like girls makes him push himself away from men. These were the more common environmental factors, especially where they would push themselves away from male relationships and form them with females. I found this the most interesting because when we are little, we normally have those close relationships with those of our same gender, but when they feel different and sometimes even bullied, they push those relationships away and form them with the opposite gender. This can make it so that later on they desire to have that close bond with someone of the same gender because they never had it. Pornography can enhance those sexual feelings as well as being molested and experimenting. A statistic showed that around 70% had experienced pornography whether it was an addiction or not. All this made me wonder if we as a society are doing this to each other. Bullying those who are different from us, isolating them from their own peer group, and making it so that they don’t have that close bond.  

It made me wonder how much of these studies would apply to my brother. If he felt this way because he was different and I know he didn’t feel connected other boys and didn’t always want to hang out with them. I would love to talk to him about all this, not to change his mind or influence his decision to be homosexual, but just for my own little study. I would love to know how much of this I believe and don’t believe. Maybe there is a little of both, maybe it’s one or the other, maybe it is different case by case. However, it is, all these studies and articles (which I will link below if you are curious and want more than just my word ;)), have definitely made me wonder how this all works, especially with my brother and those who I know are homosexual. It makes me wonder if this wasn’t how God sent some of His children to the earth, maybe it was, I don’t know. It has given me new perspective on everything and also a little more confusion.