Dating and Marriage!


Dating and Marriage! Before we begin, let me first say that it is snowing big and fluffy flakes of snow! I am so excited for a winter wonderland. It is giving me Christmas vibes in October! It has definitely brought some excitement into my day and a smile to my face. Now back on track. Dating and Marriage!!

I will say right off the back that I am not married though I have gone on a few dates and have had a couple boyfriends. But isn’t dating so different now than it was (if you think back to when your parents were dating)? Dating used to just be a fun thing to do to get out, get to know people, learn about people and find people that you would like to then court. Isn’t that weird??? We don’t even talk about courting anymore. We just say that we are dating someone and generally when you go on a date with someone you are serious. I have met many people where when you go on lots of dates you are considered a player. It makes me a little sad. I would love to have gone on tons of fun dates, which don’t necessarily have to be expensive. Meet lots of people, make friends, have a good time and then when you find someone that you are really interested in and see marriage prospects than you court them. All we do now is hanging out, which makes me sad. How fun would it be if we had a date to go to every week? That didn’t mean serious commitment, but instead was just to go out, have fun, practice treating each other well, getting to know different personalities, and being able to choose your future companion more easily because you will be more appreciative of their good qualities because you have dated a lot! 

Now this is not to say that I was good at dating. I went on some dates for fun, but I definitely was more in that mindset that dates were more serious. I still say that I am dating someone, not courting. To me that is weird. I feel that it is almost and extinct word in our society. One that is more amusing to hear than to use. I would however, have loved to have grown up with the mindset of going on lots and lots of dates and just having fun. Not stressing about relationships as much, but just getting to know people. 

I feel that dating also helps us to avoid marrying a bad person. As we date lots of people we will be able to weed out what we like and don’t like and when we finally find someone who we feel could be a life partner we will know what qualities we like and don’t and will be more appreciative of what the bring to the table. 

After dating and courtship comes engagement. We have all heard of those crazy stories where people meet, date, court, get engaged, and married within a few months. I’m sure some of us have even heard the stories of getting married with a few weeks or even week! To me those are crazy stories, but sometimes they work out. However, we also know that sometimes they don’t. I think that dating someone for a year or two can really help us to make sure we know what kind of person we are marrying. We can come to know them by going on lots of different kinds of dates to see how they react in certain situations and spend time with them. It will help us be able to be more confident that they will solve problems that come up well, aren’t abusive emotionally or physically, and are a good pare and match for us. It will lead to a happier marriage. 

    All in all, even though I wasn’t the best at it, I know it is something I can work on and teach my future children and encourage all of you to do so as well! I know that it can lead to a more relaxed and fun dating experience, fewer broken hearts, and healthier relationships and better marriages. Plus! If you go on lots of dates, you are more likely to keep dating when you are married! Who wouldn’t want to keep doing fun activates when they are married?

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